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Is it true that Jews do not have baby showers?

Is it true that Jews do not have baby showers?
Answer By: 
Rabbi Victor Appell

Traditionally, Jews did not have baby showers prior to the birth of the child. In fact, some couples do not even buy any baby items or set up the nursery until the child is born. There is no religious basis for this custom, which is rooted in superstition. Nonetheless, it is a very prevalent custom in the Jewish community.

The custom stems from the idea that drawing attention to a happy occasion also draws the attention of evil spirits. The custom may also hearken back to a time of much greater infant mortality. Though this is much less of a concern today, and most people are not overly superstitious, most Jews still shy away from lavish showers and prefer to either buy just what they need to prepare for the new addition, or order items ahead of time that will not be delivered until after the baby is born.